Last year my wife and I were exploring new neighborhoods to move to.
We always dreamed about escaping the suburbs of Omaha and moving our family downtown. But for years we put it off — even though we hated everything about our neighborhood.
We told ourselves that people with kids were “supposed” to live in the ‘burbs; that there wouldn’t be enough space downtown for all of us to live comfortably; that the school district wouldn’t be as good…
And you know what? There was some truth to those stories.
But the reality was: We were prolonging our misery by making moving more difficult than it needed to be.
Eventually, the pain of waking up in a situation we hated — every single day — outweighed the pain of taking action. And we finally decided to get the hell out of it.
Within 60 days we were living in an awesome new house in the beautiful downtown area, loving life!
Turns out, there are plenty of kid-friendly neighborhoods downtown…if you’re willing to do a little digging.
But that wasn’t the real challenge.
The real challenge was overcoming the belief that good things need to be HARD.
I find this fascinating.
How many times has a belief like this held us back? It’s as if the more perfect something seems, the less likely we are to think we can get it.
It’s not that we think it’s too good to be true — it’s just too good…for US.
…that attractive girl (or guy) across the room — “She probably wouldn’t be interested in ME.”
…that job that sounds so cool it wouldn’t even feel like work — “I probably wouldn’t get it.”
…the person who gets to take a day (or a week) off whenever they want to — “Must be nice!”
…your friend who earns enough to never have to worry about money — “Maybe someday…”
What if thoughts like these are costing you more than you think?
Not at some far-off-in-the-future point, but TODAY. Right now.
What if great things aren’t as far out of your reach as you’ve been conditioned to believe?
You’re reading this blog because you want one or more of the following things for yourself:
- To earn the kind of money you know you deserve
- To be able to spend your days doing work you truly enjoy
- To have the freedom to fully control your own life and schedule
If you told this to a random friend, relative, or coworker, they might say something like, “That’s great…but what about a real job?” Or, more haunting, “You’re being unrealistic.”
It’s easy to dismiss dreams — even our own! (Think back to my moving downtown example.)
But for the next few days I want you to give yourself permission to have a dream and actually believe in it. You can do that on your own, today. Nothing is stopping you. But I know that sometimes having an extra push can help break through any resistance.
On Monday, I’ll have a special announcement that’s going to help you get closer to your goals.
There won’t be any catch, or strings attached — I just want you to succeed. I started Freelance To Win because I believe you have far more power than you think you do, and Monday, I’m going to prove it to you. Stay tuned.
Tell me about one thing you’ve been wanting, but telling yourself was “unrealistic” or otherwise making it harder than it needs to be. What’s the story you’ve been telling yourself about it? Go ahead and comment below — I personally read every single one.